Why You Overthink Love and How to Stop
Do you find yourself reading too much into every text, worrying your partner might pull away, or feeling like you must do more to keep them interested?
Then you might be dealing with anxious attachment, a pattern that shows up in dating and relationships often without you realising it.
Signs to notice in yourself
You may constantly worry about being abandoned or rejected. Late replies or a lack of communication from your partner can send your mind into overthinking and overanalysing.
You might feel angry but rather than speaking about how you feel, you bottle it up and questions her actions or become defensive when communicating after.
Or when dating you may hold back how you feel or try to calculate your next move to ‘win them’ over’ but really you are desperate and not confident in yourself.
Why it happens
Many of these patterns start in childhood. When a caregiver was warm and attentive one moment but distant the next, or when comfort and affection came inconsistently, we learned that love feels unpredictable.
As adults, this often shows up as hyper-awareness of a partner’s moods, overthinking small actions, and a constant need for reassurance. Deep down, you’re still chasing the consistency you missed as a child.
Even if your parents loved you, their own lack of self-awareness, communication and emotional maturity still affect you as an adult.
How to start creating secure, healthy relationships
Healing isn’t about changing your partner or suppressing your feelings. It’s about understanding your patterns, noticing when fear is triggered, and learning to respond with care. It’s about building emotional maturity and breaking free from your natural fight, flight or freeze responses.
What coaching with me can help you achieve
You’ll learn to quiet the constant noise of overthinking, so you feel grounded, calm, and present in life and love.
You’ll break free from anxious patterns and create a deep sense of inner security.
You’ll stop performing or second-guessing and start showing up as your true self, naturally attracting deeper and more authentic connections.
You’ll gain confidence in dating and relationships, letting go of the pressure to “get it right” and trusting yourself to navigate love with ease.
You’ll also develop emotional resilience, understanding, expressing, and regulating your emotions so anxiety and past wounds no longer control you.
Dating and relationships shouldn’t feel like a constant test.
In my 1:1 coaching, I help you step into a presence that’s authentic, magnetic, and calm, both mentally and physically, so you can attract and maintain the love you truly deserve. Ready to start?
Message me today and make it happen